Women have been chastising men for just sticking their dicks in any and every orifice they could find for years, saying things like, “that’s all they need to get a nut”. I am here to tell you that isn’t necessarily true. Men can be a bit more complex than that sexually. Men can be multi-orgasmic, but it’s what’s in their minds that makes it easier for them to do it.
I have experienced mutliograsmic– men–two of them in a row, maybe more I have had more. I just know of two from watching their experiences with me, and listening to them describe how the sexual experiences was for them with me and what made it happen for them. It’s kind of expected now. So expected, I wrote the male characters who sleep with the lead female in my upcoming book as multi-orgasmic. Some will find it unbelievable, but it is not.
The younger character has the most orgasms, and ejaculations, than any other male in the book. I didn’t consciously write the storyline that way simply because he is the youngest. It’s just what made sense to me knowing how into this woman this character was. Wanting her for years, he finally got the chance. After their first sexual experience he always had multiple orgasms, when he was with her and when he was not.
For a man to have more than one orgasm with their partner per session, there must be an intense emotional connection between the two for it to happen. As I wrote it, this young man in the book is not only excited and finally gratified to experience copulation with her, but he does have deep feelings for her as a woman. He admires her. He treasures her.
Yes, training, one facet of it such as edging, CAN help a man to learn to train his body to orgasm more than once during an encounter, or make the orgasm more intense. Kegels can also be used as part of training to control his orgasm for multiplicity. The guys I have personal experience with, they didn’t masturbate or do any special techniques. It was all in their heads.
“I’ve already had sex with you many times in my mind before I even laid down with you.”–the words of Mr. A to me.
Truthfully, I am offended when I hear women say that men are just fine with sticking their dicks in a hole and going to town for a few minutes, that he can cum from a few gyrations on top of a person and feel just as satisfied as I do, that there is nothing to worry about when pleasing a man sexually. When people say that, they negate all possible intimacy man can have, especially when both partners are expected to have a deepness for each other.
After an orgasm, one’s brain releases “happy endorphins“. These chemicals in the brain tell us what we just did was great, the best ever, “you should do it again”. So when a man has more than orgasm per session, more and more of these endorphins are released. Not only can the acts of his multiple orgasms be the result of his intensity for you as a whole, each response can also deepen his feelings for you each and every time he does have two or three more orgasms while he’s in you.
In my humble opinion, it is worth it to learn about the sexual complexities of a man. You are missing out on so much, much more than just having someone jumping up and down in you, much more important than an attitude of men and their sexuality as throw away afterthoughts upon your pleasure. When you take the time to consider his sexuality as a myriad of emotions, you could end up having sexual experiences with your male partner that leave you more pleased because he has at his best ultimately spiritually.
It’s all in our heads, what we deem great sex to be. It’s never just about the friction, and I never write that simply. Catch up. We are on some next level shit.